When it comes to the best way to rebuild a broken relationship, think of a common saying in construction: sometimes you have to tear something down first before you can rebuild it. In most relationships that will be the case too. Now, I’m not talking about tearing your partner down, far from it, I’m talking about analyzing your past relationship to pinpoint the problems so they can be shored up the next time around.
It’s a common thing, though it’s also a dumb thing, we are all guilty of getting back with someone and expect things to be better even though neither person has made any changes. That is the definition of insanity. Take the time and be willing to figure out the past problems and fix them, you’ll be happier in the long run.
Don’t subject yourself to that kind of pain. If one or both of you hasn’t made any changes you will just repeat the mistakes of the past and cause yourselves a lot of needless suffering. Instead talk to your ex about the two of you working side by side to address the issues of the past and make positive changes. Doing so will show your ex a more mature version of you and it will also give them hope that maybe the two of you can make things work.
This is a much better approach to take than the standard one where you try to date everyone you can and hope that your ex finds out about it and gets jealous. Really?? That’s the best you can come up with? Even if your ex does find out, is jealous and does get back with you, then what? What’s really changed and what makes you think that you two won’t just do the same things over again and cause each other more pain?
It’s always best to build, and keep, a relationship based on mutual respect and honesty than one that is based on manipulation and games. If you want to rebuild a broken relationship and truly be happy with your ex, choose the high road. Make yourselves better people in general and you’ll have a better relationship.
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 11th, 2010. Comment. 
Before you and your ex fall into the pattern of relationship break up get back together, slow down a bit. This may sound wonderful and romantic but unless the two of you have faced the issues that tore you apart the first time around and made changes, you’ll just repeat the same cycle over and over again. Is that what you want, to constantly cause each other pain?
To really have a shot at getting back with your ex, and being happy, the first thing you should do is take a few steps back and give serious thought to what has happened and what needs to change so the two of you can have a stronger, more loving relationship. Owning up to your own shortcomings (for both of you) won’t be much fun but it’s a necessary step.
There are some relationships that are just too unhealthy and they should never continue. If you or your ex has some serious issues such as an abusive nature, or an addiction, you should not consider any type of reconciliation until those problems are dealt with. I don’t mean that you or your ex promises to get help, I mean that the person with the issue is going to counselling on a regular basis and has been for a while and there are real, tangible signs of change.
The best course of action is to talk to your ex and let them know that you’d like to work on the relationship… together. This will be good for several reasons. For one thing, you will be showing your partner that you are treating your relationship seriously and that you care enough to invest the time it takes to make things right. Another thing is that so many couples don’t work together well, learning to work together by working on your relationship is a great way to start, and it can really build trust between the two of you.
Sometimes we need to lose someone we love to fully appreciate them, it’s sad but true. If you find yourself in a cycle of relationship break up get back together, there are steps you can take to make sure that this time when you get back together it will work out and it will be good for both of you.
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 14th, 2010. Comment.
A man is dining in a fancy restaurant and there is a gorgeous woman sitting at the next table. He has been noticing her since he sat down, but lacks the nerve to talk with her.
Suddenly she sneezes, and her glass eye comes flying out of its socket toward the man. He reflexively reaches out, grabs it out of the air, and hands it back.
‘Oh my, I am so sorry,’ the woman says as she pops her eye back in place.
‘Let me buy your dinner to make it up to you,’ she says.
They enjoy a wonderful dinner together, and afterwards they go to the theatre followed by drinks. They talk, they laugh, she shares her deepest dreams and
He shares his. She listens.
After paying for everything, she asks him if he would like to come to her place for a nightcap and stay for breakfast. They had a wonderful, wonderful time.
The next morning, she cooks a gourmet meal with all the trimmings. The guy is amazed. Everything had been SO incredible!
‘You know,’ he said, ‘you are the perfect woman. Are you this nice to every guy you meet?’
‘No,’ she replies. . .
“You Just Happenned To Catch My Eye”
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 16th, 2010. Comment.
As we go through life, all of us will experience some sort of painful loss at some point, overcoming a relationship break up is one of those painful loses. It can seem like you will never laugh or love again when you are in the middle of a breakup. Just remember, that no matter how impossible it seems at this moment, you will laugh and love again, as long as you allow yourself to do so.
The sad fact is that many of us don’t know how to deal with the hurt and we shut down. That’s not a problem as long as it’s only temporary, but some people just don’t snap out of it and they live the rest of their lives not trusting or loving anyone again… and that is a true shame.
When you deeply love someone it’s impossible to believe that you could ever love anyone again, especially the first time you fall in love. But, as you grow older and have more experiences you’ll learn that you can love many people throughout your lifetime and while no two relationships will be exactly the same, they can all be very fulfilling and you can feel deep love in each one.
When it comes to finding the best way to move through the heartache of a broken relationship it’s best to remember that you have (or can have with some practice) complete control over your thoughts. You can teach yourself to stop wallowing in the pain and force yourself to think more positively about the future. When you learn to do this you will find that you will move on so much more quickly after a painful situation.
If this sounds dumb to you, think of it like this: if you cut yourself and a scab forms when does the cut hurt the most? When you are ignoring it and going about your daily life or when you are sitting looking at it and picking at the scab? Sure, it might be somewhat painful all the time but when you focus on it you are focusing on the pain and of course, if you pay attention to it you’ll feel it more. It is the same concept with a broken relationship.
So, try mind over matter yourself next time you’re overcoming a relationship break up. Don’t dwell on the pain but focus on happy thoughts and you’ll see that you can move on a little more quickly.
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 16th, 2010. Comment.
One of the best answers to the question: my girlfriend dumped me how do I get her back, is it depends. How you go about getting her to come back to you, the best approach, depends on many things such as why she broke up with you in the first place, whether or not she is seeing someone else and how long it’s been since the breakup. Without all this information it’s tough to know which tactics may work best for you.
There are, however, some rules of thumb that do tend to work well for most people. Just tweak these tips to make them work for your situation:
1. The best thing a guy can do to get his girl back 99% of the time is to change. In most relationships both people have their issues and their own bad traits that helped cause trouble in the relationship. And while I don’t know the specifics of your relationship generally speaking the person who has been dumped was the majority of the problem (now, I realize that this may not be the case for you but even if it isn’t, we all have issues and areas of ourselves were we can improve and grow, doing that will only help you no matter what happens with your ex).
Overcome this obstacle…This is how you get her back!
2. I know that no one wants to hear this one but I’ve personally found it to be true, give your girl some space. I’ve read some things online that criticize this approach but do the math yourself; as long as you’re hanging around in the background you make a good back up plan. Your ex has no reason to get back with you. She can see anyone she wants knowing that if things don’t work out with them you’ll take her back. You need to scare her and make her wonder what her life would be like if she really lost you forever. That won’t happen as long as you’re always around.
These two steps can help you get ready to talk to your ex, you will be able to show her that you’ve changed and that will go a long way to getting her to come back to you. I hope this information will answer the question: my girlfriend dumped me how do I get her back?
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 18th, 2010. Comment.
Breaking up is hard to do, no matter which side of the breakup you are on. Many people don’t realize it, but it’s just as hard to be the one breaking up as the one who is getting dumped. When you are the one who is doing the breaking up, it’s important to find the best way to go about it to inflict the least amount of pain and confusion. Follow these breakup tips to ease the pain for everyone involved.
Depending on your situation, your partner may or may not see the breakup coming. If the signs have been there for a long time it probably won’t come as such as shock to them, but if you’ve been keeping your displeasure and unhappiness to yourself your partner may be blindsided so you need to be particularly careful about the way you handle the situation.
Use these tips to make things as easy as possible:
1. Be honest. It’s important that you let the other person know why you are ending the relationship. Don’t lie, in the long run it will just do more harm. If you’re not in love with them anymore, let them know…gently. If you are already seeing someone else this is something that you can keep to yourself.
2. Meet your partner face to face. Don’t be a coward and send a text. Tacky! The only exception to this rule is if your partner is abusive and potentially dangerous. If that’s the case than by all means send a text.
3. Don’t make it about blame. If you think the relationship has run it’s course, that’s enough. You don’t need to parade out a long list of grievances that have accumulated over time. It will likely only end up in a fight and it will just be a repeat of many arguments that have come before.
4. Stick to your guns. Hopefully before you even broach the subject of breaking up you will have given it a lot of thought and have come to the conclusion that it is the best course of action. If that’s the case, don’t let your partner guilt you into staying together. If you’re done emotionally, you won’t be able to make it work anyway so it’s best to make a clean break.
Use these breakup tips so both of you can leave the relationship with your head held high.
Filed under Relationship Revival by on Jul 26th, 2010. Comment.
