Wow, what a mess. I’m still in love my ex says he is not. What must I do? If that sounds like you then you aren’t alone. You’d be surprised at how many people still carry a torch for his or her ex. And regardless of what your boyfriend or girlfriend says, it is extremely likely they still care about you too. But how could you find out, should you call them and tell them? Or, should you keep your distance and play it cool and hope they’ll realize that they still love you?
Instead of risking humiliation by pouring your guts to your boyfriend or girlfriend – before they introduce you to their new love, take things slow and obtain a lay of the land. This can be done in a number of ways; you possibly can ask your friends to discreetly ask around about your ex. They can find out if they’re seeing anyone or if they’ve been visiting the same places that both of you used to go (if so, this may be an indicator that they’re hoping to ‘bump’ into you. In particular when it’s a place they never went before the pair of you got together). Just encourage friends and family to use discretion. In case your friends are the type of people who don’t possess a genuine strong grasp on discretion, this isn’t always a great way for you to try.
A way to find out if your ex has any feelings for you still is to question them discreetly. As we discussed above, you don’t want to take the risk of being humiliated so instead of coming right out and asking use subtlety to find out. Call them up; say ‘hi’ ask what they have been up to. It’s all very casual and you’re not committing to anything, you just want to be friendly. It can be hard to take it slow when all you can think is ‘I’m still in love my ex might love me too’ but you have to.
Don’t start asking them about the people they are seeing. This can either come across as being an interrogation, or they’ll guess your real intentions. Instead just forget that both of you ever had a past and just be the fun loving, laid back person they fell deeply in love with initially when both of you got together.
Signs That Your Ex Lover Still Loves You
Keep your reminiscing to a minimum unless they bring it up. If they do make plenty of references to the past it’s very likely that you’ve got your answer. If they really didn’t still care for you it isn’t very plausible that they’d keep discussing the past, as a matter of fact, it’s not real likely they could have met you for coffee in the first place.
When they take it up, or you think that they are receptive, discuss both of you. Again, if it looks like the best time to do it, tell them that you just still care for them. This doesn’t necessarily have to be a confession of one’s undying love; it’s not unusual to still care for an ex, so if they react badly you aren’t on the hook. If they say that they still care for you or they miss you, it might just be the beginning of act 2 for the two of you!



