How to keep a healthy relationship

How to keep a healthy relationship

Six Secrets on how to keep a healthy relationship

We all now live in an age where it is more acceptable to swap your relationship for another one, sometimes more often than changing the style of your hair. Dare I say it, but some would say relationships are now disposable, which is crazy but hey, it is what it is these days.

But what do you do, if you have found the right one, when all the bells go off and steam comes out of your ears, when you think of them. Real love, true love,THE ONE!!! Well the most important one for you on your journey through life. How do you now keep hold of it and make it work and move on from all the disposable relationships that you may have had but are definitely all around you.

If this is the one and you will know, the most important thing is what you put into it, to keep it, you will have to work hard at this but you know it is worth it and luckily for you, I have six great secrets to guide you to make a success of your ever so important relationship.

1) Communication

Communication is so important, and the communication between both of you has to be clear and effective. This is more than just talking, it means careful listening and understanding where the other person is coming from. You both have to understand each other’s views and respect them. You have to be very together with your views and if not, then talk to each other.

2) Connection.

A long healthy relationship needs a loving physical connection. I don’t just mean a bedroom connection, which is also important. But for you both to bond, touching, hugging, cuddling is so key and should be done as often as possible. Holding hands in public, hugging wherever and whenever it feels right and cuddling as much as possible will help bring you so much closer together. And the more you do this will make you both more fulfilled, closer, happier and loving towards each other.

3) Get on the same page.

All relationships have to be on the same page, you have to both share certain morals, convictions, religious beliefs, some shared connections. And you should work on these to ensure you have as much shared convictions as are possible. The more you share, the greater the relationship.

4) Sharing of interests.

This is different from being on the same page. You both probably have different interests, which is cool but if you could share some interests, it would be so much better, again you will grow closer as you share the experiences.

5) Spending time together.

To make your relationship work, spending time together is something you not only must do, but want to do. If not then why are you in this relationship? Spending quality time with each other in good times and more importantly during bad times is crucial and will bring you so close together.

6) Spending time away from each other.

After just saying its key to spend time together, it is also crucial to spend time away from each other, with your friends or specific individual interests. This gives you time to think and hopefully miss each other and time away from all that great relationship building work…

The list seems quite obvious, but if followed will improve your relationship so much, they all add to the power of togetherness and keeping you together is the goal.

How to rekindle a relationship (fun date night ideas not working? )

how to rekindle a relationshipAre You having fun on your date nights or are they not going well?

To put some love back into your relationship and to rekindle a relationship; a date with your loved one can really help. Even if you’re going through a bit of a problem period (seven year itch) or considering calling it quits, making the effort to have a date night and importantly making the right choices can be an enormous win for your relationship, whether you are married or not. But unfortunately, date night mistakes are easily made and can be of enormous proportions, the mistakes listed below can be disastrous for you and your loved ones attempts to save your relationship. The important step here is how to rekindle a relationship and these mistakes show you what not to do.

Spending the Entire Night Discussing Family Problems

Your date night should be special and free from any mundane problems affecting the two of you. It has to be all about just you two and nothing else, the focus is all on you. So no in-laws, outlaws, children or friends and definitely no parents. This is a great opportunity to have a romantic time together, so do not bring any bad feelings or ‘old wounds’ with you.

Bringing Work Along on Your Date

Do not bring work with you, it will not only destroy the mood but will cause resentment. In many relationships, work is an issue, your partner feels they take 2nd place to your job and more importantly you put your job before the family. Any work discussion could cause resentment and boil over into a big argument. And basically will kill the mood, but can be avoided for that one night, which will be great for both of you.

Cancelling Date Night or Rearranging it at the Last Minute

Don’t ever cancel date night, that is an enormous problem, unless somebody dies, it is that important. If it gets canceled, it is saying to both of you, the reason for cancelling is more important than your relationship. But as we know life does get in the way, the key is then to do all you can to deal with the issue and ensure it happens. Whatever you have to do is better than dealing with the fallout of a cancellation.

And the same would be if there were any last minute changes, this would really cause problems and to be honest if you aren’t going to take the date night with the serious it deserves, its better not to consider it at all.

Falling into a Date Night Rut

Ok so date night has to be fun, exciting, it must not be allowed to become boring or routine, do not do the same old thing each week. Please, please don’t go to a movie and dinner each week. You have really got to switch it up, go somewhere different, take some time to plan something different, surprise each other. This has to be exciting and fun, so steak and soup and a movie with popcorn, is ok one week but that’s got to be it!!

Discuss date night, agree a list of things you would each like to do and grant each other your favorite wish. That will really liven up date night and could be quite exciting. The wishes do not have to be too crazy or expensive, just a little different and fun.

Do this and your relationship will not only improve but it will be one where you do not take each other for granted, which is so important.

Getting back together after separation

how-to-get-him-backIt isn’t always a walk in the park to get your man or boyfriend back. You may have been really trying to get him back for some time, without any success. and that is probably why you are here. You’re hoping for an easy and maybe quick, even magical answer to get him to come back for good this time.

Getting back together after separation won’t be easy but hey it has to be worth a shot if you still love that person.

Is there a magic answer? Magic is something mystical and wonderful for some people, that cannot easily be explained. or much less understood. Other people believe magic is a sleight of hand, a trick of the eye that can always be explained. Your definition of magic doesn’t matter, whether it includes enchantment or wonder or even a mystery to solve, getting your man or boyfriend back does not involve and spells. But some magic words always help.

What kind of sparkle has been in your relationship recently? This is the little fun element and zest for life that is necessary in all lasting relationships. Were things going along well and suddenly it all went wrong? Or have things been slowly going down hill in recent months? When was the last time you both went on a romantic date for example? How long has it been since you weren’t able to keep your hands off each other? But how do you put the “sparkle” back in after the fact?

You add the sparkle into your own life. Change up your image a little. Add a little zest to your appearance, it will boost your confidence a little, and become the active, vibrant girl you were when you first met. If the two of you are in similar social circles he will hear about the new you, news travels fast, and it will drive him nuts with curiosity.

Now really get into the best shape of your life. It doesn’t matter if it’s toning up or losing weight, now is the time to take care of yourself and look great. It only needs to be a small improvement, more if you can but a small improvement will really show everyone, especially him.

You need to eat nutritious meals and always drink lots of water to stay hydrated. This is important because the one thing you want, if you cross paths more than anything else with your ex man or boyfriend is for him to see you glow and come across as a healthy and happy lady. He will expect you to pine a little and it will really make him curious about what’s happening in your life if you’re looking better than ever and seem happy.

Keep going and never consider grieving over him. Live your best life without him and commit to it. You’re not moving on. You’re not letting go of the idea of getting him back. It’s so much better, it is showing him that you do not need him. And magically all this time he’s working out that he might actually need you.

Relationships are not easy to manage, but neither is breaking up. Give him the opportunity to see that you are not only living and growing on your own but looking great without him. And he’s very likely to make the first move, which is great as it will be easy to convince him that the idea to get back together was all his. Now that is truly magical, convincing him that he’s the one who wanted to make it happen.

How to get back together after a break up (Lazy Man’s Guide)

How to get back together after a break upIt is very difficult to break up, and more so if it wasn’t your idea. And men can do some crazy stuff to get their wives or girlfriends back. They handle this traumatic time in many different ways. and the crazy stuff can consist of negotiating, begging, bribery, and sometimes stalking. Some men accept it and move on, in time and put it down to experience.

It will take time to fix a heart that is broken and restore enough confidence to get them back in the dating game. But some won’t take no for an answer and are desperate to get their girl back but have no real plan to do it, so often resort to some strange ideas.

But it is simpler than you may think.

Fortunately, hoop jumping really isn’t necessary to get her back. You don’t even have to do the chasing. You’ll probably be surprised to learn just how easy it can be to get her to come back to you. Here is a short list of things you can do easily.

Don’t phone her

This has got to be easy, right? Well it can be but men struggle with this particular inactivity as they need to protect and defend and therefore feel a great need to convince their ex to change their mind. And chase them down until they agree. But in real life this is not a great idea.

So, don’t phone her, give her some time to consider things and it was good between you.

Change some things at Home

Have a look at how you look, make some small changes, they will get noticed in a positive way. You don’t need a complete change. Try some gym work or get involved in sport to improve your fitness and tone. Maybe even try making your teeth whiter.

Also try and not eat as much, don’t have to diet, just cut out that second portion, portion control really works.

She will come around, you’ll see

News travels fast, even in your part of the world, your small changes will be noticed and that is exactly what you want. People and particularly your ex will want to know what is going on, why you have made the changes and who are they for. She will be going crazy, asking around to get the lowdown to find out how you are managing well on your own. She will try and accidently meet you in the mall or wherever to see for herself what has changed.

Then you have you big chance to speak to her on your terms as she will have come around and be interested again.

Now you know how to get back together after a break up.

Good luck.

How to get over a breakup for girls

How to get over a breakup for girlsThe best way to get over a breakup, is to get him back, well that’s if you still want him.

Can I make him fall in love with me again?

All relationships go up and down, like waves on an ocean, some days it is all good and calm waters then suddenly a storm arrives and your relationship suffers, you may break up, you may not really know what happened. The love you felt for each other changes and you think it has gone forever. But wouldn’t it be cool if you could spot that and get that loving feeling back?

What do you need to do to make him fall for you again?

You need to spend time on yourself, take care of yourself. Your physical and mental well being is key to so many things, and especially to getting your guy back. Exercise and eating right is fundamental as is your appearance, you have to feel great inside and out and that will show itself to others. You will be more confident and he will notice that as will other people, you will become more desirable and you will turn more heads, not only his.

So things to consider are; get fit/toned, makeup changes, clothes, hair, manicure/pedicure and brighten up your smile/teeth. The changes are not meant to be life changing, but will definitely improve your self confidence and that will have a ripple affect on the people around you, particularly him. He will hear from others how you have improved and will be desperate to see you. And make it an easy decision for him to fall in love with you again. Remembering guys are simple souls.

It is always good to improve but do not do that to the detriment of who you are, you need to love yourself and if you do, he will find it easy to love you. Simply accept who you are and be comfortable and if you can improve the outer you, so much the better. The inner you is often a more beautiful person and once he realizes how beautiful you are on the outside as he has to first (being a guy), he will want to find out more about your inner beauty. He just needs some guidance and this advice will help you and him fall back in love.

So the big lesson is to learn to love yourself first and you will be a happier person and the simple tips mentioned here will help you. And you will shine and he will not be able to resist you. He has loved you before and probably wants to love you again, so give him that opportunity.

This shows you “How to get over a breakup for girls”

Breakup advice – Biggest Break Up Mistakes

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We have some breakup advice here, showing you the biggest break up mistakes, you may well be making right now, hopefully not but read on and see.

It is crucial you do not do any of these mistakes, even if you have a heart that is broken. If you do manage to avoid these, your chances will jump to over 60% to get back with your ex.

  • Most people think that if you hang around your ex and try to be friends it will help. all that will actually happen is you will be used and viewed as someone who is around and not a serious partner.
  • Harassing your ex with millions of emails, thinking volumes of stuff will make them think more of you. They need space, so don’t fill the space with pointless emails.
  • Don’t call them all day, every day, the same as the email harassment, they need space, not your pointless messages. And you need space too. Especially if you are angry, you need to calm down, it isn’t going to help. Think about your actions and give them space. If you are angry, go to the gym!!!
  • The other way to get into their life, is to do jobs/favors for them, to make you look irresistible. it won’t work, they will see through your efforts and lose any respect they may have had. It will turn out that you get used the whole time, this isn’t helping you or them.
  • Making them jealous, should be on the mistakes and good idea list. It all depends on how it is done, if you can do this successfully, they will get jealous, which works. But if it goes wrong, you will be pandering to their ego and shows your desperation.
  • OK the big one, do you or don’t you have sex with your ex? And for a guy this is a tricky one… But the act is showing them you will do whatever it takes to get back into their lives. Which should not be your plan. You need to get back into their lives on an equal footing, not just for the things you can do.
  • Some people who have been dumped after often trying to beg, feel real anger and resentment and the only way to feel some self respect and better about the situation is to threaten your ex. This is clearly a big no-no and may feel the right thing to do to make you feel better. But clearly this is the end of any possibility of a rekindling of your relationship.
  • The last one on the list of things, you should not be doing is another tricky one. Your ex may ask you to change something they do not like about you and in your desperation, you may say you will change Be very careful here as you may not be able to change or worse you may not need to change, and your ex will not think any more of you, if you just jump to their command.

Well that is the list of what you shouldn’t do, I bet you are doing at least one of those, I know I have in the past as love is blind.. Luckily now as I have mentioned before I have found a great guy who can probably help you, check it out here