June 27, 2010

Know Why Couples Part and Get Your Ex Back

Men and women leave relationships for different reasons. It can be confusing trying to sort out the mind of the opposite sex. Even when we’re told something, we often feel there’s more to the story or that the other person is out and out lying about the situation, so let’s be blunt here.

If your lover has left you and given you some lame excuse like, “It’s just not working out,” you have to figure out what went wrong on your own so you can fix it.

Not every situation is cut and dry, but a lot of them are. Sometimes one of you cheats and a lot of the time this makes the one that got hurt pack up and leave.

Let’s face it, too – if someone cheated, there were problems long before the act of being unfaithful took place. If you’re not in a position where you can pinpoint the exact reason, then you have to understand men and women and what makes them tick.

So let’s look firstly why Men Leave Their Relationship… Men will abandon a relationship when it’s no longer giving them what they need. Men like to be admired for who they are. They want respect and to see interest coming in from the opposite sex.

Maybe it’s his ego or manhood, call it whatever you like but a man needs to know that he is wanted and admired all of the time or he will look to get it from someone else.

Early in a relationship the lady is very good at showing that she is interested, but as time passes it starts to get a bit ordinary and she may stop using make up and doesn’t dress as well. She may also start to lose interest in his day to day activities, doesn’t laugh at his jokes like she used to.

Unconsciously men crave admiration. They rarely leave for someone prettier. They leave to feel respected, admired and wanted again.

Men are often heard to say “I am sick of being nagged to death” what is really happening is that the lady is conveying to him that she is somehow unsatisfied with who he is and what he has to offer, and that’s what eats away at him and drives him out of the relationship.

We turn our attention to Why Women Leave their Men… Women are usually loyal until they stop feeling appreciated by their man. Men tend to think of some women as being “high-maintenance” because they’re needy and crave attention.

It is not the attention so much but appreciation in the things they do for their man. Maybe a small thing, a call at work just to say “ Hi “ or the way they dress, how they look or maybe the way they act in public, at a party etc.

“Gee you look lovely tonight” or maybe “I loved the way you did that” and of course “Thank you so much”. These are but just a few ways that men should show their appreciation.

This is why women who cheat, do it with men that shower them with attention and praise for what the can and do offer the world in general.

Understanding why your lover left really is the first step in getting them back.

There is magnificent book availsble that explains the many reasons lovers’ part and the plans and techniques to get back together…The name of the book is The Magic Of Making Up…If you are the position of needing help, support and advice check it out. You will be glad you did.