Before you and your ex fall into the pattern of relationship break up get back together, slow down a bit. This may sound wonderful and romantic but unless the two of you have faced the issues that tore you apart the first time around and made changes, you’ll just repeat the same cycle over and over again. Is that what you want, to constantly cause each other pain?

 To really have a shot at getting back with your ex, and being happy, the first thing you should do is take a few steps back and give serious thought to what has happened and what needs to change so the two of you can have a stronger, more loving relationship. Owning up to your own shortcomings (for both of you) won’t be much fun but it’s a necessary step. 

There are some relationships that are just too unhealthy and they should never continue.  If you or your ex has some serious issues such as an abusive nature, or an addiction, you should not consider any type of reconciliation until those problems are dealt with. I don’t mean that you or your ex promises to get help, I mean that the person with the issue is going to counselling on a regular basis and has been for a while and there are real, tangible signs of change. 

The best course of action is to talk to your ex and let them know that you’d like to work on the relationship… together.  This will be good for several reasons.  For one thing, you will be showing your partner that you are treating your relationship seriously and that you care enough to invest the time it takes to make things right.  Another thing is that so many couples don’t work together well, learning to work together by working on your relationship is a great way to start, and it can really build trust between the two of you. 

Sometimes we need to lose someone we love to fully appreciate them, it’s sad but true.  If you find yourself in a cycle of relationship break up get back together, there are steps you can take to make sure that this time when you get back together it will work out and it will be good for both of you.