Do ex boyfriends always come back these days?

do ex boyfriends come back these days?OK girls, here are some facts you probably need to know about your guy. You seem to struggle to relate to the guy you love, you don’t always speak the same language as each other. Guys say things that hurt you but were not intended to and then guys get very confused when they get the cold shoulder and tears come into play.

At this point all hell breaks loose as neither of you know what happened but you both feel it wasn’t your fault and in fact are certain it was the other person’s fault and feel hurt. But these flare ups do not need to happen, girls just need to better understand their guys. And as girls are the smarter sex it probably is up to you to get a better understanding as guys won’t as you know…

Here come those boyfriend facts…

1) Guys do think about absolutely nothing

You may not believe me but it is true, every man has the innate ability to think about nothing. So don’t worry or take it the wrong way if he doesn’t share he’s thoughts with you. As strangely as it may seem he may not have any thoughts!!!

So don’t concern yourself, just believe this fact.

2) He loves you and doesn’t want you to change

He actually just wants you to remain the same way, the day you both met. All happy, excited, touchy feely, he doesn’t want that to ever go away.

3) Change isn’t good in his mind

As mentioned, guys really do not do change at all. That is for you to change and more importantly for them to change. He wants everything the way it is, so no exercise, no healthy eating, same chair in front of the tv, same car, same, same, same. Scary isn’t it but great information for you, so you know when you want to make changes, he may freak out !!

4) Emotion is important to him as well

Females believe their partners are emotionally shallow but this is wrong, men do not show their emotions readily but they have strong emotions and often very deep. He may not say he loves you every day but deep down his love for his family and you is very strong. But he needs to understand you feel the same way.

You need to take these simple facts in and they will help you understand him better and hopefully with understanding will come a better appreciation of your man and what is driving him to be the way he is.

Do ex boyfriends always come back these days? Well yes they do come back, not always but as you can see from this list, there are lots of things you can do to control your guy.

What to do when your husband cheats?

What to do when your husband cheatsHow can I forgive my husband for cheating?

So many other questions come to mind and I would imagine have done for so many years for so many women. Divorce has only been an option recently for women to get out of their marriage if there was cheating involved. While this is one solution, its not necessarily the ideal one. Marriages can and do survive cheating a lot these days, in fact statistically the amount of cheating is incredible but also the amount of marriages that survive is also quite incredible. Apparently just over 40% of marriages have either partner admitting to cheating and what is interesting is the fact the numbers are quite equal between the sexes.

31% of marriages last after cheating has been found out, while 50% of all marriages end in divorce. So there is a good deal of hope in survival after cheating, if that is what you want to do.

So, lots of statistics, but does this help forgiving your man for potentially committing one of the ultimate sins? Probably not, but it gives you some context and shows it is really worth the effort as it can work.

For you to forgive him, you will need time and space to give this the thought it deserves, this is obviously an enormous blow to you. You need to really consider what it means to you and what YOU want to do with your life next. You need to take as much time as you need, you are in control now, no-one else, no-one else can call the shots now. You have all the cards or should do and if you don’t, make sure you do. You must not let anybody push you into any decisions until you are ready, if you do anything before you are good and ready, it could cause you to close down and prevent you from being able to think straight, which is not good for you, your marriage or anyone.

This stage is all about you. So if he is trying to get back into your life, there is nothing wrong in watching him work at it and dragging it out, after all it was his fault. And although it cannot remove the pain, it in some small way helps you and you deserve some small payback. But if you know he has no chance, it won’t make you feel better if you let him squirm for too long.

Women over the years have been told it is their fault if their man strays, which is ridiculous as you know. So do not blame yourself, he did this, he is responsible, take time to understand that. You have to forgive yourself first before you can ever consider forgiving him.

Forgiving someone for cheating has to be one of the most difficult things you can ever do in your life but it is possible and I hope the thoughts here can help you. It is not going to be easy, but if YOU want to do this after giving yourself time and careful consideration, I applaud your strength of character and wish you all the best in the world.

Good luck.

How to get back together after a break up (Lazy Man’s Guide)

How to get back together after a break upIt is very difficult to break up, and more so if it wasn’t your idea. And men can do some crazy stuff to get their wives or girlfriends back. They handle this traumatic time in many different ways. and the crazy stuff can consist of negotiating, begging, bribery, and sometimes stalking. Some men accept it and move on, in time and put it down to experience.

It will take time to fix a heart that is broken and restore enough confidence to get them back in the dating game. But some won’t take no for an answer and are desperate to get their girl back but have no real plan to do it, so often resort to some strange ideas.

But it is simpler than you may think.

Fortunately, hoop jumping really isn’t necessary to get her back. You don’t even have to do the chasing. You’ll probably be surprised to learn just how easy it can be to get her to come back to you. Here is a short list of things you can do easily.

Don’t phone her

This has got to be easy, right? Well it can be but men struggle with this particular inactivity as they need to protect and defend and therefore feel a great need to convince their ex to change their mind. And chase them down until they agree. But in real life this is not a great idea.

So, don’t phone her, give her some time to consider things and it was good between you.

Change some things at Home

Have a look at how you look, make some small changes, they will get noticed in a positive way. You don’t need a complete change. Try some gym work or get involved in sport to improve your fitness and tone. Maybe even try making your teeth whiter.

Also try and not eat as much, don’t have to diet, just cut out that second portion, portion control really works.

She will come around, you’ll see

News travels fast, even in your part of the world, your small changes will be noticed and that is exactly what you want. People and particularly your ex will want to know what is going on, why you have made the changes and who are they for. She will be going crazy, asking around to get the lowdown to find out how you are managing well on your own. She will try and accidently meet you in the mall or wherever to see for herself what has changed.

Then you have you big chance to speak to her on your terms as she will have come around and be interested again.

Now you know how to get back together after a break up.

Good luck.

How to get over a breakup for girls

How to get over a breakup for girlsThe best way to get over a breakup, is to get him back, well that’s if you still want him.

Can I make him fall in love with me again?

All relationships go up and down, like waves on an ocean, some days it is all good and calm waters then suddenly a storm arrives and your relationship suffers, you may break up, you may not really know what happened. The love you felt for each other changes and you think it has gone forever. But wouldn’t it be cool if you could spot that and get that loving feeling back?

What do you need to do to make him fall for you again?

You need to spend time on yourself, take care of yourself. Your physical and mental well being is key to so many things, and especially to getting your guy back. Exercise and eating right is fundamental as is your appearance, you have to feel great inside and out and that will show itself to others. You will be more confident and he will notice that as will other people, you will become more desirable and you will turn more heads, not only his.

So things to consider are; get fit/toned, makeup changes, clothes, hair, manicure/pedicure and brighten up your smile/teeth. The changes are not meant to be life changing, but will definitely improve your self confidence and that will have a ripple affect on the people around you, particularly him. He will hear from others how you have improved and will be desperate to see you. And make it an easy decision for him to fall in love with you again. Remembering guys are simple souls.

It is always good to improve but do not do that to the detriment of who you are, you need to love yourself and if you do, he will find it easy to love you. Simply accept who you are and be comfortable and if you can improve the outer you, so much the better. The inner you is often a more beautiful person and once he realizes how beautiful you are on the outside as he has to first (being a guy), he will want to find out more about your inner beauty. He just needs some guidance and this advice will help you and him fall back in love.

So the big lesson is to learn to love yourself first and you will be a happier person and the simple tips mentioned here will help you. And you will shine and he will not be able to resist you. He has loved you before and probably wants to love you again, so give him that opportunity.

This shows you “How to get over a breakup for girls”

Breakup advice – Biggest Break Up Mistakes

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We have some breakup advice here, showing you the biggest break up mistakes, you may well be making right now, hopefully not but read on and see.

It is crucial you do not do any of these mistakes, even if you have a heart that is broken. If you do manage to avoid these, your chances will jump to over 60% to get back with your ex.

  • Most people think that if you hang around your ex and try to be friends it will help. all that will actually happen is you will be used and viewed as someone who is around and not a serious partner.
  • Harassing your ex with millions of emails, thinking volumes of stuff will make them think more of you. They need space, so don’t fill the space with pointless emails.
  • Don’t call them all day, every day, the same as the email harassment, they need space, not your pointless messages. And you need space too. Especially if you are angry, you need to calm down, it isn’t going to help. Think about your actions and give them space. If you are angry, go to the gym!!!
  • The other way to get into their life, is to do jobs/favors for them, to make you look irresistible. it won’t work, they will see through your efforts and lose any respect they may have had. It will turn out that you get used the whole time, this isn’t helping you or them.
  • Making them jealous, should be on the mistakes and good idea list. It all depends on how it is done, if you can do this successfully, they will get jealous, which works. But if it goes wrong, you will be pandering to their ego and shows your desperation.
  • OK the big one, do you or don’t you have sex with your ex? And for a guy this is a tricky one… But the act is showing them you will do whatever it takes to get back into their lives. Which should not be your plan. You need to get back into their lives on an equal footing, not just for the things you can do.
  • Some people who have been dumped after often trying to beg, feel real anger and resentment and the only way to feel some self respect and better about the situation is to threaten your ex. This is clearly a big no-no and may feel the right thing to do to make you feel better. But clearly this is the end of any possibility of a rekindling of your relationship.
  • The last one on the list of things, you should not be doing is another tricky one. Your ex may ask you to change something they do not like about you and in your desperation, you may say you will change Be very careful here as you may not be able to change or worse you may not need to change, and your ex will not think any more of you, if you just jump to their command.

Well that is the list of what you shouldn’t do, I bet you are doing at least one of those, I know I have in the past as love is blind.. Luckily now as I have mentioned before I have found a great guy who can probably help you, check it out here

Surviving a breakup

surviving a breakupI know you are here because you are struggling with a really tough situation, I have been there and you don’t know what to do for the best, breaking up with a loved one is so painful.

But I think I can help you, I have found a Southern guy, who has a Southern drawl but he knows what he is talking about. I really like what he says about how you can really turn this around if you stop what you are doing and follow his advice. He says you have to start with what’s inside you. In fact he has a video that can help you RIGHT NOW and I would love for you to watch it here.

This guy has helped over 50,000 people across 77 countries and I would love you to meet him, his name is T. Dub Jackson. To be honest I am not sure if he can you in your particular situation, but you have nothing to lose by watching his great videos, no bs, just straight talking advice, you can use right now..

You could be going about this all wrong… He tells you what you should do when you contact your ex next.

He can do more than help you in surviving a breakup, he can help you get back with your ex.

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Good luck in surviving a breakup, your breakup, but please remember, you don’t have to only survive it you can rebuild it.