When it comes to the best way to rebuild a broken relationship, think of a common saying in construction: sometimes you have to tear something down first before you can rebuild it. In most relationships that will be the case too.  Now, I’m not talking about tearing your partner down, far from it, I’m talking about analyzing your past relationship to pinpoint the problems so they can be shored up the next time around. 

It’s a common thing, though it’s also a dumb thing, we are all guilty of getting back with someone and expect things to be better even though neither person has made any changes.  That is the definition of insanity. Take the time and be willing to figure out the past problems and fix them, you’ll be happier in the long run. 

Don’t subject yourself to that kind of pain. If one or both of you hasn’t made any changes you will just repeat the mistakes of the past and cause yourselves a lot of needless suffering.  Instead talk to your ex about the two of you working side by side to address the issues of the past and make positive changes.  Doing so will show your ex a more mature version of you and it will also give them hope that maybe the two of you can make things work.  

This is a much better approach to take than the standard one where you try to date everyone you can and hope that your ex finds out about it and gets jealous.  Really?? That’s the best you can come up with?  Even if your ex does find out, is jealous and does get back with you, then what?  What’s really changed and what makes you think that you two won’t just do the same things over again and cause each other more pain? 

It’s always best to build, and keep, a relationship based on mutual respect and honesty than one that is based on manipulation and games.  If you want to rebuild a broken relationship and truly be happy with your ex, choose the high road. Make yourselves better people in general and you’ll have a better relationship.