When attempting to rescue your relationship from a bad break up there are many important steps that should be taken. To be successful in getting our ex back we should take each step seriously and build a plan. There are also something’s we should be very aware of and one of the most important is premature reconciliation.

Hey! What’s that mean I hear some asking, well in plain English it means getting ahead of ourselves in any well constructed plan we might be following. We should be constantly aware of premature reconciliation because it can so very easily creep up on us, because our plan is to get our ex back isn’t it and the quicker the better. No not so because in so many cases a very quick and easy reconciliation will not last, getting in too deep too soon will tend to slow the whole reconciliation down maybe stop it altogether.

Reconciliation…FEEE Advice 

The process of getting our ex back should start with a cooling off period, a time where we should get away from the situation completely, there are several reasons for this. However eventually we must make contact again and this is the period where premature reconciliation is most likely to occur.

Here are some examples…
A contact by telephone, make it quick, perhaps set up a meeting over coffee at some neutral place.

Keep the meeting short, 20-30 mins at most. If the ex seems responsive that’s great but it is just the beginning. Make another appointment and leave. The second date can be a little longer and perhaps a little closer but we must remember to take it slow and easy and avoid premature reconciliation.

If the ex wants’ to push ahead too quickly it’s best to say “just let’s take it easy” or something to that affect. Women in particular have often regretted sleeping with their ex too soon.

Our thoughts should always be “Take it slowly” this way we should be able to avoid premature reconciliation and make the reconciliation permanent.